That is the question most women contemplate when deciding to go natural.
I have been transitioning since last year and I am finally just inches away to the end of my journey! The beginning was both exciting and frustrating, like any new endeavor we undertake.
Once I got into the routine of things I became more and more comfortable with the transition and enjoyed the process.
Going natural is and should be a personal decision. Once we decide to do it we are faced with another big decision. We have to decide either we would transition or big chop. We all make our choices for different reasons but what's important is to own and be comfortable with the choice we make.
I knew that transitioning was the best option for me because I sure can't tolerate having ' bad hair days'. I can't tolerate the thoughts of my hair being in a condition I have NO idea how to manage.
I did notice in the course of my journey that most people put pressure on the BC but it's my hair not theirs. I am the one who has to be happy and feel confident about my " crown" so I was in no way going to give into any kind of pressure about the BC.
Transitioning granted me more control. I can handle my hair with length. I would have been a frustrate sister if I had cut my hair and learned to care for it short and impatiently waiting for growth. I knew that even with a relaxer, short styles can be demanding so there was no way I would have complicated my life by having a BC.
Plus I am married and greatly respect the idea to always being/feeling attractive. Personally I think that when we are into a relationship we should maintain our best look even with natural hair and I did not think that I could pull it off with a BC!
I feel more confident when I look my best and I had doubt that a big chop would help me maintain that confidence consistently.
I wanted the natural hair without dealing with unwelcome frustrations.
Here an old article on the start of my natural journey: http://goodhealthdiva.blogspot.com/2011/03/i-am-coming-out-call-to-naturals.html
My Tips for easy transitioning:
Transitioning was easy for me because of the following:
1) I asked a LOT of questions before deciding to go natural.
2) I deep conditioned my hair every two weeks.
3) I maintained regular visit to the salon by having my hair professionally maintained and had my ends trimmed as needed.
4) I stuck with hair stylists that had natural hair and were very experienced in maintaining my hair healthy.
5) I stuck to products and procedures that work best for me from professional brands my hairdresser recommended to homemade products/treatment I loved.
I rarely used any protective styles throughout my transition. I got my hair braided just once in the course of my transition, and I used a pretty wig a couple of days when I was too lazy to attend to my hair.
Well, that's what worked for me and made my transition enjoyable!
Remember that it's your hair and either you BC or transition you are the one that has to love your hair (and make your man fall in love with your "crown").
What about you? What did you do once you decide to go natural? Are you a new natural? Are you transitioning or going with a Big Chop? Why?